在罗马人眼中，爱情与婚姻的成功无关。
婚姻的存在是为了提供孩子。 爱是一件值得欢迎的事情，但绝不是必要的。 在许多方面，它被看作是一种可笑的事情。 它削弱了理性思考的能力。 因此，恋爱不是一件值得羡慕的事情。
在任何情况下，正如谈论性被认为是社会所不能接受的一样，沉溺于任何公开的爱的表现也被认为是不雅的。 因此，已婚夫妇不会在公共场合接吻--甚至连简单的脸颊之吻也不会。
罗马人对爱情的态度有一些例子。 庞培对他的年轻妻子朱莉娅（凯撒的女儿）的奉献只被看作是娘娘腔的弱点。 老加图对他最终结婚的女奴的感情被看作是一个好色的老骗子的可悲欲望。
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罗马房屋中庭的床象征性地提醒人们婚姻的根本原因--孩子。 因此，人们认为，罗马的婚姻在很大程度上是契约性的，缺乏爱。 因此，丈夫和妻子之间的性关系很可能被保持在最低限度，然后纯粹是为了产生后代的目的。
社会传统要求怀孕的妻子完全禁欲。 而在孩子出生后，她们会继续这样做，也许会持续两到三年，因为她们继续用母乳喂养孩子。因此，罗马的婚姻爱情只是另一种形式的忠诚。
妻子的责任是寻求与丈夫生儿育女，就像她的责任是不把丈夫出卖给政治对手或在公共场合有不当行为而使他蒙羞一样。 她不是爱情的伙伴，而是生活的伙伴。
See_also: 塔拉尼斯：凯尔特人的雷霆和风暴之神 她的角色，如果他死了，是明确规定的。 她会嚎啕大哭，抓挠脸颊，当众表现出悲痛欲绝。 他的家人会哭泣，她也会哭泣。
如果她因不孕而不能生育，罗马妻子的诚信可能表现得最为明显。 如果可能的话，她会靠边站，寻求离婚，回到她父亲的家里，这样她的丈夫就会再婚并产生一个继承人。 如果这不可能，她允许他有妻妾，并且不对他们表示嫉妒，这被认为是适当的。
总而言之，罗马妻子是一个爱的饥渴者，她渴望得到丈夫的任何爱的表示，而丈夫则竭力不这样做。
那些真正表达爱意的著名男人，如庞培或马克-安东尼，他们的名声显示了他们的行为是多么的糟糕。 因为坠入爱河，被一个女人所束缚，就意味着被她所控制。 而一个被宠坏的丈夫的形象是任何罗马人都会不惜一切代价来避免的。
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